The moment we gain consciousness, only thought that terrifies us more than anything is “What other people think about us?” This idea takes root during our childhood and If not dealt with remains with us till we die. We just become better at dealing with it when we get older but it still lurks around in some corner of our brain.
But is this fear/idea/notion rational?
Do other people really think about you?
What do you think?
I believe no one cares about us except for our family. Other people got their own problems to take care of. Beyond a certain specific moment, no one is bothered by what we do or do not do.
Remember the last time you were embarrassed by some event. For example, you tried to dance at a social gathering. You didn’t do it very well and thus felt uneasy. At that moment people around may laugh at you. But did you continue to hear from them for an entire year? Did they continue to talk about your bad dance performance?
No. They couldn’t care less about you after that event because they got their own lives to live. They cannot and will not waste time thinking about you as they are overpowered by their own problems.
Consider your own example. Do you keep on thinking about others every second of the day? No.
Then why do we assume this about the others?
Why do we consider ourselves to be the center of the universe? This sense of self-importance needs to go away.
The Good News
When we know no one cares about us we become free. We can do whatever the heck we want. No one would care a damn about it. This sense of freedom should encourage us to break our mental barriers. We should fly high, attempt the most ridiculous goals, do things that we consider impossible, or were too shy to attempt due to the fear of what others might think about us.
This mindset shift can make us feel lighter, relieved of the burden of other people’s opinions.
Surprise people. Do what they don’t expect you to. As no one cares about you anyway why you should be their prisoner anymore?
Be free.
I write daily here on my blog. There is no limit to the word count. I am not focusing on any topic here. I want to build a daily writing habit. This is Day 19 of the Daily Writing Challenge in 2022.